You are doing so much to care for this new little being (or two or three). It is amazing how the hours can fly by and it seems all you are getting done is diaper changes, feeding, and anticipating the needs of a baby who doesn’t seem to want to sleep anywhere but in your arms. On top of this, you’re doing it all through a fog of sleep deprivation with a body that may still feel tender after the monumental event of childbirth.
If you are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, we can reassure you that this is very common for new parents. You are not alone, and you’re not doing anything wrong.
The issue is that new parents today in our modern culture do not have nearly as much help making the major transition into this role as our ancestors did. When we lived in closer communities, there would always be loved ones bringing you food, tidying the little messes, supporting you with baby care tasks, tending to your tired body, watching over your baby while you get the recuperative sleep you need, wiping those tears that slide down your face for no reason with quiet understanding, and reflecting back to you that you are a wonderful and worthy parent.
In some cultures the forty days after childbirth are dedicated entirely to healing after birth and being mentored through new parenting by an attentive community. New parents emerge after this “Baby Moon”, having fully and healthfully integrated the shocking experience of birth and the extraordinary transformation into family life, confident in their new identities.